Tuesday, June 9, 2015 –
Ay is such a sweet, sweet baby. I keep finding myself lost in thoughts about all the things that make him special as I gaze at him. So here are some of these things I’ve noticed about our newborn so I don’t forget:
He has a cry that starts out very high pitched, like a squeak or sometimes like the cry of tea kettle.
He has a tiny scab on top of his head. I remember Tee had one, too. I think they’re from the midwives at both births breaking my water.
He has an asymmetrical hairline with a widow’s peak off to the right just a bit. I love that he has two whorls in his hair – one at the back, and one right to the left of that widow’s peak. I think that whorl is part of why is hairline isn’t symmetrical. It’s ridiculously cute – I’m sure it’ll become hidden as his hair grows, so I’ll enjoy it now while it lasts.
He was born with incredibly long eyelashes and deep brown eyes.
He usually has a very serious look on his face as he gazes at us.
He has a tiny mouth, and an especially full lower lip, and often when he’s trying to latch he’ll end up catching his upper lip instead and it takes him a few seconds to figure it out and let go.
His ears have a folded top, especially the left one, which also has a slight crease. It’s interesting to think how he must have been contorted in the womb to come out with a fold in his ear like that!
He has at least one dimple, on his left cheek. I suspect he has two, a deep one and a shallow one, like my sister and I do, and like Tee also inherited. We’ll find out when he starts to smile.
He looks like a different person every day – first like me, then like Tee, and now like TH. I wonder who he’ll look like tomorrow?
Weight check went great! While Ay didn’t gain any weight, he didn’t lose any more weight either. In fact, he had huge poop today, and nursed a ton. I’m thinking if he hadn’t pooped until after the weight check, he would have shown a gain in weight.
And speaking of poop, I’m positive the fact that Ay had five poopy diapers in his first 24 hours contributed a lot to how much weight he lost, which the midwife’s assistant mostly agreed with yesterday and felt surer about today. She talked to the midwife and the plan is that they will do the one week exam a day or so early, just to make sure the numbers on the scale are still going up.
Now that Ay is no longer losing weight, I’m done with spoon feeding, so we’re back to nursing constantly, skin to skin, no silverware in sight. I’m no longer worried. My milk is in – I feel like I’ve got two canteloupes on my chest, and yet the engorgement isn’t all that comfortable at all. I’m glad that Tee still nurses and can help with that somewhat because Ay, while nursing a ton, can’t quite eat enough to take the edge off.
We put Ay in a sleeper, rather than the usual side-snap t-shirt, for the first time today for bed. It felt a little weird to put an outfit on him after three days of his being naked save a diaper during the day and a diaper and t-shirt at night. But the bedroom was a little cold, so I turned off the air and decided to give him more coverage.
I am making no pretense about the fact that we’re cosleeping. Nights have been mostly peaceful so far and I think that has a lot to do with both our kids being close. That said, our getting Tee to bed has been a challenge for sure the past two nights. A change may need to come soon with regard to how we do bedtime moving forward and I’m glad that TH has four weeks of leave so we can work on this together without risking anyone being super tired during a work day the next day.
The fact that Ay is mostly naked all the time (and me, too, from the waist up), is very different from Tee’s newborn days. Part of it is very intentional – I wanted to focus on resting, and skin-to-skin and nursing completely on request, and I’m glad it’s more or less working out. Part of it is also the time of year – Tee was a winter baby and Ay was born in summer weather. So who knows if Ay will wear many clothes at all this month before we start venturing out of the house again regularly! I do have one outfit I want to put him in – the ‘coming home’ outfit the Tee wore home from the birth center. Ay is a bit bigger than Tee was at birth but I want to try to get a photo of him in it tomorrow anyway – assuming I remember!
We also haven’t been swaddling at all. We do keep a baby blanket or two on top of him when he’s nursing skin to skin or if someone is holding him. But intentionally swaddling him to keep him still hasn’t yet happened. It may enter the picture at some point in the future, but for now, it’s just a tool in the back pocket.
Another back pocket tool that will get broken out as soon as I’m getting out of bed regularly are our wraps and the sling. I’m excited about using them and learning carries. Not in any rush though, since I’m not supposed to be walking or standing or doing much out of bed for long periods of time, and my tail bone and perineum would appreciate it if I took that suggestion seriously through at least the end of the week. But I thought about suggesting a carrier for TH today when he was holding Ay while I got myself ready for bed. I’ll have to show him how to use one in the next few weeks!